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Do’s & Don’t’s During Hurricane Preparedness

Do’s & Don’t’s During Hurricane Preparedness

Anxiety, Feelings, Parenting
As you know hurricane watches can increase anxiety for parents and thus for children as well. Emotional distress can have long standing effects so it is our job as parents to help our children with their emotions during unpredictable weather. Here are some quick DOs and DONT's: -DO answer your child's questions about weather and hurricane preparedness giving them only what they NEED to know. -DON'T keep your plans hidden from your child. Let them know that you have a plan and let them help with preparation. Knowledge is power. -DO limit the amount of news coverage your child watches. This can cause confusion and anxiety for children. -DON'T minimize your child's feelings. If your child says they are afraid, say "It's OK to be afraid but we have a…
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Teens After Divorce

Teens After Divorce

Divorce, Feelings, Teens
Do you want to know what teens need after their parents divorce or separate? They need to feel in control. So much has happened that was out of their control. Their life changed and they had no say in it. Divorce causes them confusion, insecurity, and even self-judgement. Many kids feel responsible for their parent's divorce. That's a whole other blog post. Going back to what they need: control. In counseling, teens can learn how to regain control and we teach them how to control the one thing they will ever be in control of; themselves. More specifically, their thoughts, feelings, and actions. We move the focus away from that which they can't control to what they are in control of. We still process the feelings around what they can't…
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Teens & Nail-biting    

Teens & Nail-biting    

Anxiety, Body Language, Teens
One of the ways we communicate our feelings is through body language. Even before we identify and verbalize a feeling, our body gives it away. Our body’s reaction to an emotional state is automatic. Some examples are when we are suddenly frightened, our body may jump. When we are angry, our hands may ball up in a fist. When we are disappointed, our shoulders may fall. Nail-biting in teens may be an automatic response to feeling nervous or anxious. As one teen described it recently to me, “I feel nerves.” Biting their nails is a way for them to release nervous energy. Often, the teen may not even realize they are doing it unless someone says something. They might become aware, remove their hand, only to put it back in…
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How do you feel?

How do you feel?

Communication, Feelings
"How do you feeling?" is a question that can elicit a variety of responses. It's a question that results in us choosing from a list of words grouped as our "feelings vocabulary." What happens when you ask your tween or teen, "How are you feeling?" and they answer "good" or "bad?" Both are very broad terms and very general. You might follow up with, "Good, how? or Bad, how?" and in result get an "I don't know." In that moment you may think your teen doesn't want to share more and that may well be the case. However, what if they really doesn't know? You see, in order to answer this question, one needs to have an awareness of feelings. "Good" or "bad" may be the extent of their feelings…
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